Think about the last few months. These questions explore specific actions, not whether you are a ‘toxic person.’ Context matters, and a quiz cannot decide who is responsible for a whole relationship.
The short answer
Look for actions that undermine consent and trust, not a permanent ‘toxic’ identity. Repeated pressure, threats or invasions of privacy require change.
Written by Account AB as an original self-reflection activity. This quiz has not been clinically validated and is not a diagnosis or a judgment of your worth.
1. I use someone's insecurities against them during arguments.
2. I pressure people after they have said no.
3. I check someone's private messages without permission.
4. I threaten to end a relationship to get my way.
5. I make people feel guilty for spending time with others.
6. I dismiss hurt feelings as being too sensitive.
7. I punish disagreement by withholding affection.
8. I blame other people for my own insulting words.
9. I share private details to win support during a conflict.
10. I demand apologies without acknowledging my part.
11. I make promises to change but avoid following through.
12. I try to control decisions that belong to someone else.
How this quiz works
Each answer scores 0 (Never), 1 (Sometimes) or 2 (Often), for a total of 0–24. Results use three editorial ranges: 0–8, 9–16 and 17–24. These cutoffs are not clinically established. Your quiz answers are held only while this page is open and are not saved; this device only remembers that you finished the quiz.
Your score reflects the frequency of the actions you reported. It cannot establish another person's intentions, diagnose a condition or judge your worth. One serious incident can matter even with a low score.
Look at the pattern, not the label
Disagreeing is different from controlling. You can express disappointment without demanding access to private messages or punishing someone for saying no. An apology should not become another way to pressure someone to stay.
Choose a recent example and separate what happened from what you assumed. Look at what was within your control, what you agreed to and whether a repair actually changed the next interaction.
What to do next
Stop one boundary-crossing action immediately.
Name the action and its impact without blaming the other person's reaction.
Respect requests for space and do not demand forgiveness.
Seek professional support if controlling or threatening patterns repeat.
Common questions
Can one result define me?
No. These are original reflection questions with editorial score ranges, not a validated assessment. Use individual answers to choose a specific next step rather than turning the total into an identity.
What if a conversation feels unsafe?
You do not need to confront someone to prove that you are accountable. If there are threats, coercion or fear, prioritize safety and seek trusted or professional support.
