Jealousy is a feeling, not proof that you are a bad friend. These questions focus on what you do with it. Answer about patterns rather than one difficult day.
The short answer
Envy can reveal something you want; put-downs and control can damage friendship. Focus on your response rather than punishing yourself for the feeling.
Written by Account AB as an original self-reflection activity. This quiz has not been clinically validated and is not a diagnosis or a judgment of your worth.
1. I downplay a friend's achievement when they share it.
2. I compare our lives and struggle to enjoy their good news.
3. I change the subject when a friend gets positive attention.
4. I make sarcastic comments about a friend's success.
5. I treat their other friendships as a threat to ours.
6. I look for flaws in things they are proud of.
7. I withhold congratulations because I feel behind.
8. I turn their good news into a competition.
9. I gossip about them when I feel overlooked.
10. I expect them to limit other friendships to reassure me.
11. I avoid supporting them when they have an opportunity I wanted.
12. I act distant instead of naming my insecurity respectfully.
How this quiz works
Each answer scores 0 (Never), 1 (Sometimes) or 2 (Often), for a total of 0–24. Results use three editorial ranges: 0–8, 9–16 and 17–24. These cutoffs are not clinically established. Your quiz answers are held only while this page is open and are not saved; this device only remembers that you finished the quiz.
Your score reflects the frequency of the actions you reported. It cannot establish another person's intentions, diagnose a condition or judge your worth. One serious incident can matter even with a low score.
Look at the pattern, not the label
A friend's success does not remove your opportunities, though unequal circumstances can make comparison painful. You can offer sincere support and process disappointment separately. A friend can have other friendships without replacing you.
Choose a recent example and separate what happened from what you assumed. Look at what was within your control, what you agreed to and whether a repair actually changed the next interaction.
What to do next
Congratulate the specific achievement without adding a comparison.
Write down what the envy suggests you want for yourself.
Choose one step toward that goal independent of your friend.
Repair a put-down directly and stop treating friendship as a competition.
Common questions
Can one result define me?
No. These are original reflection questions with editorial score ranges, not a validated assessment. Use individual answers to choose a specific next step rather than turning the total into an identity.
What if a conversation feels unsafe?
You do not need to confront someone to prove that you are accountable. If there are threats, coercion or fear, prioritize safety and seek trusted or professional support.
